Monday, August 28, 2017
All Momed out + Fun Mom Dinner Movie Review.
Not long ago I was invited to attend an early screening of the movie "Fun Mom Dinner" with The Moms Network. I am so happy I did. I enjoyed every minute of it, and laughed so much! I saw myself in each mom some way. I am tired, like Kate. I am trying to live life to the fullest, like Jaime. I am trying to keep it all together, like Emily. And I am trying daily to be super mom, like Melanie. They all shared very different personalities, but all of the same mom feelings - which is what made them all click and become such good friends, who enjoy a very eventful "mom dinner". It is most definitely a movie I would suggest every mom to watch. It made me really think about the kind of mom I am, and how much better it would be to have a group of mom friends to enjoy the ups and the downs with. It also very much so made me realize that I actually do not have that kind of mom friend.
This was a tough one to write because I don't want any of my friends to be offended in any way. I have great friends who just live too far or have too much on their plate and that is okay. Sometimes you get so caught up being a mom, and when you do find some time for yourself, you would much rather spend it in silence. But there is nothing more necessary for your sanity than a couple good mom friends, and unfortunately, I do not have a ride or die mom friend - at least not yet. I have mom friends I see once a year for a birthday party. I have mom friends that I get together with during the holidays to plan PTA events with. I have mom friends who I can text here and there to complain about being tired. I have mom friends, I just don't have that ONE mom friend, you know the one you can rely on for everything. The one that you can consider their kids your kids too! The one that you can expect to pick up your slack when you forgot the kids had to be picked up early from school, and you are stuck in traffic. That mom friend that you can invite over every Tuesday to cry with while watching This Is Us. That one mom friend that feels more like family, rather than just a friend. Your kids are just as inseparable as you both are.... That's the kind of mom friend I have been trying to find in the last six years, and it's exhausting. Many have come close, but people change or move and you are back to square one. I know it takes effort, and having children around you constantly can affect your effort in friendships, so of course, its easier said than done. But I do know it is not impossible. I understand it also takes lots of effort from me too, and let's face it I forget to text back sometimes too - my mind makes me believe I am responding when in reality I just stared at my phone and responded to myself. I need to make more of an effort if it is what I feel I really need.
But I also know that even if I don't have a mom friend I can confide in 24.7, I do have support coming from all other sides. I have my friends with no children, who I get to see about twice a year or so and I know regardless of the different lives we live they care for me. I have my mom friends that live so far, but still text me when they have some down time to chat. I have my family who is the most supportive family I could ever ask for. Lastly, but most importantly - I have my little tribe I call my own family that I can hands down rely on to keep a smile on my face daily.